20 things i’ve learned about listening from my court-ordered handbook
A few months ago, two different people told me, in a nice-ish way, that I’m a very reactive person and maybe I should work on this.
I did a mental scroll of issues I’ve had with people in the past decade and realized that—in almost every case—my hot-headedness played a role. (Sorry, all my ex-boyfriends!)
It seems obvious now, but I’d never noticed that, hey, I do have intense reactions to things. (Like rude emails or Sheryl Sandberg’s TedTalk.) And I never thought I could do anything about it.
And this is all a prelude to explain how I discovered a series of articles by a California-based therapist named Lorraine Watson after a google search. Her theory is that being reactive is simply a state of not dealing with emotions (usually anger) in the most skillful way.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that it is 100x better to stand passive aggressively at the dryer than to be the weirdo who removes and anonymously folds somebody else’s clothes. Creep.
On the scale of “just living the good life” to “drinking problem” where does “drunk laundry” fall?
I just dropped the panopticon to explain why my co-worker and I can’t disappear for an hour to go wait in a line to get a free frozen banana so I guess that college degree weren’t for nothing, assholes.